Tuesday, February 17, 2004 @ 12:58 am
was talking to a friend on MSN jus now....Apparently, his gf was my cousin's sec sch classmate and we actually met each other at the airport. What a small world~ :)
toked to him about his girlfriend and stuff, duno why but it came across to me that his gf is like pressing him to get married, when they're only 22? That's a very young age to get married I feel. Actually I've heard him talked about this a couple of times when we were in Cambodia, and at that time, I had this false impression that his gf is someone who's like sying to get married, for fear that her bf will not want her or something like that....
Maybe she has certan plans that she would like to fulfill at some certain age, at a certain point in life...I jus can't help but feel that the way my fren is saying, behaving and thinking, jus sent me the message that he wants out of the relationship. Perhaps after being together for almost 5 years, he can't bear the pain?? I duno. I'm not him so I can't say much about it. I used to think he's quite flirtatious, you know, like a buaya and all, coz he's like to be around with a bunch of girls and likes to talk and joke with them, sometimes, even haf some physical touch (in the conservative sense) too. Frankly speaking, I waa rather put off by the way he's behaving and the message he's sending out to all the pretty girls seems like, "Hey, I'm taken but still available!". At that point of time, I suddenly feel sorry for his gf, whoever that may be. Coz if I were his gf, I would probably be very disappointed or lose faith in myself...
I just feel that, in a realationship, both parties have the responsibility to be truthful and behave in a manner that does not suggest anything that may pose some problems to each other. I'm not saying that once you're in a relationship, you can't have any friends from the opposite sex or what, that'll be too domineering already. I'm jus saying that one should act as deem fit and not send wrong messages to the wrong kind of ppl.
I had q a bad fall once from my first relationship coz my ex was someone who was far below my expectations. As such, I was so disappointed that I don't believe in relationships at a certain point in time. But gradually, I changed my perspectives and mindset over the years and came to realise that the more you expect your partner to turnout, the more you'll get disappointed, becoz it's very rare or say even impossible to meet someone that fits ur bill totally.
I feel that it's essential to haf lotsa communication and trust in order for a relationship to last long. And both mus still haf their private space tho they're a couple. Being a couple doesn't equate to losing oneself. So if you think by controlling you bf is loving him, I would advise you to drop that stupid idea.
Suddenly had so much to say abt this...duno why also...:) Jus hope that my fren and his gf will haf a long lasting relationship....